The Respect Connection

Childhood overweight and lack of parental oversight. Less physical activity and more screen time. Fast food and fad diets. Eating more and moving less.

Parents, teachers, community members, public health officials, medical professionals, non-profit workers, day care providers, police officers, farmers, chefs…we are all part of the childhood overweight epidemic. At first glance, it may seem like it’s just a problem for families. But food, family, health and culture are interconnected, to say the least.

And it’s finally hit pop-culture, prime time TV. This week TLC premiered “Honey We’re Killing the Kids”. It’s like the Supernanny, but for nutrition and physical activity. The Supernanny goes in to a home and helps teach parents and children about discipline, behavior and good parenting techniques. “Honey We’re Killing the Kids” does much the same thing, but focuses on a family’s eating and physical activity behaviors. The first show featured three young boys; two were already overweight, while the youngest one was skinny. But he wasn’t skinny in a healthy way – he was thin because he was malnourished – eating about a pound of sugar a day. The family lived on fried food, take out and pre-packaged sugary snacks. Because of the frenetic pace of our lives today, parents have so little time to spend with their children that when they do see their kids, they will do anything to make them happy. If it takes French fries and chicken fingers at a chain restaurant to feel like quality time, then that’s what families do.

How have we gotten to this point? The point where TV shows have to scare families into learning how to feed their kids nutritious food and spend quality time together as a family? What’s missing from our culture today?

The Respect Connection.

All the talk about the childhood overweight epidemic is missing the main point – it’s about respect. Kids know when they are being respected. And you can show respect through food.

Think about the difference between opening a can of green beans and heating them in the microwave, versus freshly picked green beans lightly steamed and served to the whole family. Imagine two day old spaghetti on the school lunch line, compared to a soup made from scratch in the cafeteria kitchen and a salad bar stocked with fresh, locally grown produce. Picture a family piling in the minivan to go to the closest chain restaurant, waiting a half hour for a table, then ordering fried food and having to talk over loud music. Then picture a family sitting down to a meal together in their home. The kids helped make the salad and set the table. They talk and can hear one another.

Which scenarios feel more respectful to you?

Good health and nutrition also means respect for the environment. Kids need to know where their food comes from – that carrots grow in the ground, not on the supermarket shelf. When kids plant seeds and watch them grow, they begin to appreciate – to respect – the earth and what it can provide for them.

Fighting the obesity epidemic also comes down to respecting yourself. Feeding your body well and getting exercise means you will feel better. And it gets real simple for kids. Eat well, play well. If you have good food to fuel your body, you can run and jump and play longer and stronger.

One of my day jobs is coordinating a childhood obesity prevention program in Asheville, North Carolina. (My other day, night and all the time job is being a mom to my 14 month old daughter.) Three non-profits joined forces to help children and families achieve a healthy weight, with particular focus on reaching out to low-income and immigrant families. The organizations leading this initiative are Children First, Appalachian Sustainable Agriculture Project and MANNA FoodBank.

And we do the most amazing things. Our programs include: school gardens, promoting Farm to School programs, providing backpacks of fresh produce for school children to take home to their families, after-school meals and nutrition education, community distributions of fresh produce and providing healthy options at a food pantry. Early on we joked that our mission was to rebuild the family table, but now I don’t think we’re so far off.

The respect connection. That’s what I’m here to talk about. I’ll explore each of these respect threads in more detail and share stories about the inspiring children, teachers and families I meet along the way.

Thanks for reading The Respect Connection.